Archive for November, 2007

It must be said

Okay people, feel free to brush this off as a PMS fueled rant, but the fact that my brain is currently saturated with hormones, shouldn’t detract from the fact that what you are about to read is true and real and one of the most important messages you’ll ever read in your life. I’m only being slightly over-dramatic.

Message board users, internet chatters, bloggers and pretty much anyone with access to a keyboard, I’m here today to beg of you – to implore you, to please stop using “lol” in contexts that don’t constitute a laugh or a chuckle or even a half-cocked smile. Stop using it as if its an emoticon. Just stop. I like a good smiley 🙂 as much as the next person. It lets someone know that you’re actually smiling or that you are being sarcastic (if its a winky smile). Emoticons are one internet meme that has managed to remain mostly un-abused. “Lol,” is a different story. It’s an abbreviation that actually stands for three words. When you spell out those words they convey that something has made you “laugh out loud” as opposed to simply having a thought that something is mildly amusing, or not amusing at all, and has lead to little or no outward expression. The truth is, you’re not laughing out loud that often. Don’t try to convince me you are. If you must use “lol” it should should be typed only as a response to something genuinely funny. You shouldn’t use it when you’re greeting someone. You shouldn’t use it when you’ve just said something mildly ironic or silly. You really shouldn’t use it after your own stories or comments at all. Don’t say: “I just woke up and its 1:00 in the afternoon…lol.” Don’t do that! Don’t do it. Stop doing it. You didn’t just laugh at the fact that you slept late and neither would anyone else.

Often, when chatting with someone, (usually Beth, because that girl cracks me up on the regular) I do actually laugh out loud. I’ve never actually rolled on the floor while reading or watching or listening to something on a computer screen but I’ve laughed enough to have tears come to my eyes or to not be able speak for a moment. It is at times like that I might think about letting someone know that they’ve made me giggle. But you folks who use “lol” all of the time, like a virtual, typed, tick make me and many of us in internet-land want to avoid the term all together. Please see several real-life examples that I’ve collected from various sources:

He is just my friend…lol.

I guess it depends on the music, lol.

just kidding, lol.

what are you up to today? lol.

Were these folks really laughing out loud when they typed these messages? I suppose its possible…if they are INSANE. No. “Lol” has just become for some people, a useless filler. So what should our response be? In all honesty I don’t know that there’s much we can do. We can avoid the abuse of “lol” ourselves, but what of those clueless souls who will never see the light? My tactic has been and will continue to be to simply try and ignore it. Until widespread change happens, all I can do attempt to block it out as if it’s just a typo. I’ll think to myself, “That person didn’t mean to type those random letters in the middle of such a humorless comment. ”

I am moderately hopeful that this post can serve as a wake up call. I propose that we all take a good hard look at our use of “lol.” Before you type it, think…”Am I really laughing right now?” That’s always a good test to help you decide which internet situations call for “lol.” If we all did this one thing – if we all only typed lol when we were actually laughing – or if, God forbid, we actually typed out complete words occasionally – we could change the entire landscape of the internet. “Lol” might regain some meaning. Eventually, people might even begin rethinking their use of other acronyms like “omg” and “wtf.” It all begins with us. We can do it. We can make a difference, one keystroke at a time.

November 28, 2007 at 6:08 pm 1 comment

lets hear it for the boys

As a woman, I think beauty is something we all recognize in each other and hope to find in ourselves. However, like a lot of ladies, I often find it much easier to see my own flaws and imperfections and failings and if beauty is present it’s only for a moment and the instant I turn my head the wrong way or say the wrong thing it will disappear from my view as quickly as it arrived. I’ve been praying lately that I would be able to not only see for myself, but to offer to others, the beauty and femininity I’ve been uniquely given by God, because such things truly aren’t mine to boast about or to slander.

This Sunday my pastor spoke about the roles Christian men are called to play in the kingdom of God. For the past few weeks I’ve been thinking about a lot of the themes he discussed and his words really helped to crystallize some of those thoughts and prayers for me. The thing is, I haven’t always appreciated the male portion of our species. If I’m honest with myself, for a good part of my life, from adolescence through my late teens, I was pretty apprehensive about most men, particularly ones close to my age. My anxiousness was by and large due to fairly normal (though still entirely terrible) teasing I endured at the hands of boys throughout my school years. As a chubby, shy, smart girl, I’m sure I was the perfect target for bullies.

For that reason, I just didn’t trust most guys and therefore never really pursued relationships with them as friends or on a romantic level. Growing up, my physical beauty was rarely if ever affirmed by any man so I just assumed I wasn’t attractive to them and spent lots of time hiding myself away. Thankfully, God is really amazing about bringing healing and restoration and growth to the broken areas of our lives and today I can say, without hesitation, that I really do enjoy most of the men in my life and that I feel more comfortable with my appearance than I ever have. I know I won’t ever be that woman who turns heads when she walks down the street or makes jaws drop when she enters a room, but I feel confident that even on my worst days I have a distinctive and undeniable loveliness that goes well beyond the surface.

I’ve also been thinking a bit this week about where I fit into the lives of the various men I come in contact with on a regular basis and what roles I’m meant to play in their lives. What uniquely feminine gifts do I have to offer to the friends and fathers and teachers and bosses and coworkers? And what do they have to offer me? How can I as a single woman, be an encouragement to them? I pray that I, along with the other women they come in contact with, would be a source of strength and renewal to my male friends and family and that I would be able to hear and receive the words they have to speak to my heart as well.

November 13, 2007 at 5:51 pm 2 comments

why yes, yes I am

As previously discussed, I quite enjoy my google homepage and my current favorite gadget is the MapMyWord Dictionary. Today, after signing on, the word of the day was:

Voluptuous

which I happily took as a much-needed little personal reminder. I’m hoping tomorrow’s first word will be “sassy.”

November 13, 2007 at 10:23 am Leave a comment

Character Actors

A few personal favorites
Christopher Guest and crew

Somehow, Christopher Guest has assembled the best comedic cast ever: Catherine O’Hara, Parker Posey, Fred Willard, Eugene Levy, Micheael McKean, Jennifer Coolidge, Jane Lynch, Don Lake, Ed Begley, Bob Balaban, John Michael Higgins, Fred Willard, Harry Shearer…
Amazing together, but they’re all individually fabulous as well.
See: Waiting for Guffman

 

Holly Hunter

She’s got a great combination of quirky and sexy that allows her to pull off a variety of characters while still being very much herself. Terrific voice too.
See: O Brother Where Art Thou

 

Jeff Goldblum

You just can’t not watch him when he’s on the screen. I defy you to turn away. It’s not possible. He could be in the most terrible movie ever (see below) and you’d still watch it. I did. His strange mannerisms and cadence defy explanation.
See: Hideaway

 

Alan Rickman

While most of us know and love him from Harry Potter, I first came to relish his dulcet, British tones in Galaxy Quest as the Spock-like sidekick of Tim Allen. He often plays a put-upon or depressed but likable character. I could watch/listen to him all day. All day I tell you.
See: Love Actually

 

Frances McDormand

She has a great ability to make an audience truly sympathize with her characters.
See: Fargo

 

Joan Cusak

Just always makes me laugh.
See: Where the Heart Is

 

Bonnie Hunt

The perpetual best friend. Doesn’t she remind you of your mom? No? Well she reminds me of mine.
See: Return to Me

 

Tim Curry

Like Jeff Goldblum, Tim Curry is sort of a character unto himself. His face and voice are irresistible and his acting range is surprisingly diverse.
See: Oscar

 

Tyne Daly

I always enjoy her

strong-and-wise-but-inwardly-vulnerable-older-woman character.
See: Judging Amy

 

Cloris Leachman

One of my favorite actresses of all time. Her dramatic acting is always tinged with comedy and her comedic acting with pathos. She has, unlike many actresses of her generation, actually allowed herself to age and has done so beautifully.
See: Spanglish

 

Peter Sarsgaard

I normally don’t like actors who have such a cynical demeanor, but somehow Sarsgaard wins my heart.
See: Shattered Glass

 

Gene Wilder

I sort of see him as the male version of Cloris Leachman.
See: Alice in Wonderland

 

Emma Thompson

She can go from silly to refined to average to psychotic and is just always eminently watchable. Yes, I just used the word eminently. Don’t hate.
See: Stranger Than Fiction

 

Kevin Kline

I can’t say I enjoy all of his roles, and although he does comedy really well, I think I like him best as a dramatic actor.
See: Cry Freedom

 

Diane Keaton

Another older female actress who has aged gracefully. Not every role she’s chosen is great, but even in terrible movies, she remains her charming self.
See: Something’s Gotta Give

 

Steve Carell

Another comedian who I think if given the opportunity, has the potential become one of the greatest actors of his generation.
See: Little Miss Sunshine

 

Jerry Stiller

He always plays essentially the same guy, but how can you not love that guy?
See: The King of Queens

 

David Strathairn

The dude has been in a gagillion movies in the past 20 years. He’s that steady, solid, actor that you always feel a mild affection for, even when he plays a smarmy character, if only because you’ve seen him in a dozen other roles.

See: Lost in Yonkers

 

November 6, 2007 at 11:42 am 2 comments


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